So here I am, taking time away from my babies, to practice what I preached in my last guest blog post!
My real relaxation time is when I am in the spa, lying in the sauna, eyes closed in self hypnosis, dreaming of faraway places and forgotten past times spent on the beaches of Brazil, with wild and carefree travelling amigos! Prior to children 👶and big mortgages…
I have come away for a couple of nights on the advice of my husband to have some ‘me’ time, my ‘holiday’ for the year if you like. It’s really important to treat ourselves and to look after ourselves, when we’re working so dam hard to bring up children and also running businesses or whatever it is you do to retain a bit of the old ‘you’ and follow your dreams.
This morning at breakfast I met a lovely mummy who was doing exactly the same, taking a couple of nights away from her three, one of which is home schooled, the youngest still being breastfed and ‘attached’ all night…
I felt for her in the same way that I feel for many parents I meet every day at our child carrying workshops. We do everything we can just to survive in this world. I asked her if she did anything nice for herself on a daily basis and she just laughed or, rather, crumbled…
Since getting proper self care from the Back Clinic In Diss, I have been able to return to my Yoga sessions, one of my loves, with the wonderful Maria and can actually get up from lying down, without help! I know! Amazing 😉. Something that’s not happened in over six years! Nic Aldous at The Back Care Clinic believes that by the time we are 14, our posture and other events have given rise to bad backs. This may be as a result of low self esteem, height and stooping, flat chestedness as a teen etc etc. When we find yoga or running later in life, the damage has already been done so it’s really important to look after your backs as early as possible to right those early wrongs in our spine. Inspiring hey 👋
Maria posts about taking an hour a day for ourselves, whether it be spent taking a bath, having a stroll, going for a swim, reading, each day. Yes, not every month or every six months when you’re at breaking point, but each day!
Now I know what you’re thinking, how do I have time for that? But honestly, my old CBT counsellor told me to do this for my ongoing well being. We are allowed to take time out each day for self care. Give yourself that, allow yourself to have this time each day to let the body’s sympathetic nervous system recover fully, our fight or flight internal system to recover from overload of adrenaline, particularly if you suffer badly from anxiety or depression but all of us should be practising this to keep healthy and to top up our cups each day!
How can each of you take time each day for yourselves? Start doing it today.
And find a comfortable well fitting baby carrier to help with your back pain and stress! 😍